Do You Have Bad Relationship Patterns?
Choosing our lovers, the whole process seems to go through stages. In the beginning, we become aware of someone’s physical appeal, and their lively personality (or vice versa). Second, what comes next is the discovery that we possess certain interests, principles etc.,
That are common to us. Third, we come to a state of emotional arousal, where we start to “click”, before finally, a deeper, psychological attachment develops.
Six Symptoms of Bad Relationship Patterns
Physical sensations: Something your boyfriend or girlfriend says or does, leads to a familiar physical sensation that is deeply uncomfortable, for instance, a headache or an ill feeling in your stomach.
Repetitiveness: More than one of your relationships began full of promise and hope, only to badly fail later on. Even though the people involved are new, the ending always turns out the same.
But for many of us, relationships hardly ever go this cleanly. Instead, we suffer what are called ‘bad relationship patterns’, where we constantly begin relationships that start out full of promise,
only for them to end up in disappointment and sadness. If this sounds like you, if you suffer bad relationship patterns, then you need to learn to recognize what the causes are. This is the only to escape from that constant cycle of heartbreak and sadness.
Obsession: You believe that it is your own deeds or words that push your partner(s) away, but you remain sure that you can repair things and change the object of your desires into the caring, loving person you desperately desire.
Feeling of grief: At the end of the relationship, you suffer a sense of deep loneliness. Where you once felt a ‘connection’ with your partner, now there is only loneliness, regardless of how unpleasant or stressful that relationship may have been.
If you experience bad relationship patterns, then surely you’ll recognize these feelings:
Conflict: Never mind how you felt about your boyfriend/girlfriend, deep down you always knew something wasn’t quite right about the relationship. You felt feelings of jealously, uncertainness, anxiety or stress due to the relationship you were in.
Vulnerability: You have a feeling of vulnerability; you are incredibly conscious of your own ego and as a result are always trying to ‘prove yourself’ to your other half.
If you experience one or more of the symptoms mentioned above, and you struggle to forge long-lasting relationships, then you may have trouble with bad relationship patterns. So what can you do about this?
Easy – you need to discover your own psychological needs are. By understanding yourself, you will identify the forces at work that push you into the clutches of undesirable partners. Once this is recognized, you will quickly be able to avoid bad relationship patterns and into a more stable, loving relationship that you desire.